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by Linden16
Wed May 09, 2018 11:29 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

thank you very much everyone. Without going into too much detail, I was initially admitted in february, discharged at the beginning of april and then readmitted 4 hours later through the ER and then the ICU where I spent nearly a month in a coma and then recovery. I will be in hospital for another m...
by Linden16
Tue May 08, 2018 11:18 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

I have been hospitalized since february - its been a bumpy ride. Things are starting to look up though. love to you all
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 8:37 am
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Reading each person's sorrow here reminds us we are not alone. That is a comfort. What I have discovered and I have lived a while here on earth is that time is a healer. You can think about your situation everyday, have it affect your relationships. go through hell, but time marches on and time tak...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 8:28 am
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

I have a close family member who has depression/anxiety/other issues. I think you have to do whatever you can to decrease your suffering as soon as possible. You have to understand that you don't have to suffer. I AM A LAY PERSON. That said... I think you are in an emergency situation. I think you ...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 8:22 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Dear Linden, I just want to add my words of support for you through your difficult times. I don't have any advice, but please know that I value you through your contributions to this bulletin board, and the old UDBB. You have such a super eye, and I always appreciate your concise, pithy, accurate c...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 8:15 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

I don't know all the background but from what I have read above, imho you are still very much grieving the lose of your mother and unwarranted guilt for not having a few minutes with her before she passed. You cannot change this, so you must find it in your heart and mind to accept this tragedy. As...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 8:04 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Nothing hurts like family. Linden, you've been through hell. I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. Have you also thought about taking anti-depressants? Anti-depressants really helped me through the Triple Crown of Death. Don't associate your horses with your trauma. Don't think "if it wasn't fo...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 7:57 am
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Linden, I was so blessed in the last 18 months of my fathers life to be able to do things for him, advocate for him and spend time with him. But please note the word blessed. I was lucky. It could have as easily been that there was nothing I could do. Sometimes we are blessed and allowed to feel li...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 7:47 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

linden, i don't know if this is true for you, but for me, the holidays are my worst time of year. they are filled with 'aniversaries' of awful family stuff i don't consciously remember --but subconsciously i sure do! this week it took me 3 days to get out to the barn to groom Nail, meet hammer. So ...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 7:22 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

I think in part because horses are themselves emotional creatures (who freely let emotion flow through them), they can actually intensify the emotions we are experiencing in utterly unrelated parts of our lives. That can be wonderful, but also very intense. I also think horses tend to notice when w...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 7:14 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

piedmontfields wrote:Thinking of you, LInden, and hoping you had some peaceful time today.


Thank you :) peace would be a beautiful feeling.
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 7:12 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Linden - I know nothing about your relationship with your parents, but regardless of how complicated (or not!) it was, I am positive they want you to be happy and have a good life. Your horses are a part of that. . . Life is not simple (my mother married my father for all the wrong reasons ($$$$), ...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 7:05 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Linden, I am so very sorry that you have been through such a devastating series of heartaches. I am seeing a therapist but it's not helping. I just need some perspective from people who have been involved in my horse life my whole life. If therapy isn't helping, it may be you need a different thera...
by Linden16
Sat Dec 23, 2017 6:58 am
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Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

how are you doing now Linden? the holidays can be really hard.... To be honest not very well for about a month now. I’m hoping I will get myself back together after the holidays are over. Treading water gets exhausting after a while. Thanks for asking, though. It’s helpful to even have some one car...
by Linden16
Wed Dec 20, 2017 7:31 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Just wanted to know thatI’m listening and reading everyones advice. I’m processing it all and tiptoeing through.
by Linden16
Fri Dec 08, 2017 3:11 am
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

Just want you guys to know that I’m reading your advice. I’m listening. I just can’t reply yet. This is so hard.
by Linden16
Wed Dec 06, 2017 4:05 am
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

I do feel like I am less alone when I talk to you guys here and hear about each other’s personal tragedies in what little detail we can each share. In my “real” social life, none of my friends or family (besides my sisters and the one set of cousins who were my uncle’s kids) have ever gone through a...
by Linden16
Tue Dec 05, 2017 10:26 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Re: Need some help or advice

I theoretically understand what you guys have said here, and I *know* what I should be doing, feeling etc. but damn it isn't that easy to actually do. I don't blame the horses for being there when my parents aren't, but I know that I would never have had the opportunity to change my life so drastica...
by Linden16
Tue Dec 05, 2017 6:29 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need some help or advice
Replies: 65
Views: 40210

Need some help or advice

A lot of you know I have had a devastating 14 months. There is a lot of back story that preceeds this by a few years, but it all culminated in that year and a bit. My mom died suddenly and unexpectedly in April last year, and had the two family members she was out do dinner with at the time understo...
by Linden16
Tue Dec 05, 2017 5:36 pm
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Young horse drama in the crossties
Replies: 30
Views: 23016

Re: Young horse drama in the crossties

I have been reading each of these and trying them with some consistency in the barn with her. Nothing has changed. When this filly was in germany, she went through the westphalian auction, and I know that a lot of sensitive horses (my mare is definitely one) carry excess baggage from that environmen...
by Linden16
Tue Nov 21, 2017 5:33 pm
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Class of 2013?
Replies: 196
Views: 121293

Re: Class of 2013?

Thanks Anne. I am enjoying both of them immensely...this is the dream, right? Many people tell me I'm crazy for buying two 4 yr olds at once, but honestly the baby years are the most rewarding for me, since every ride almost I can feel them getting stronger and braver and more developed. Sure, I cou...
by Linden16
Tue Nov 14, 2017 4:47 pm
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Young horse drama in the crossties
Replies: 30
Views: 23016

Re: Young horse drama in the crossties

She's been stateside since July 2. We were at one barn for 2.5 months and then moved to a different barn just down the road, just after my gelding arrived. I know there's anxiety in there, but also she is an absolute cookie ho and if she thinks she is going to get a cookie when she is in the crossti...
by Linden16
Tue Nov 14, 2017 4:38 pm
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: Get out your winter boots - November/December Goals and Progress
Replies: 194
Views: 82927

Re: Get out your winter boots - November/December Goals and Progress

Demi, I can be like this, too. I often make myself "schedule" hack days and hill days to assure that I mix it up. I almost always do hills after a rough day of work because it is all that my mind can handle! :lol: Last night we did our hills amidst a herd of 7 deer. They mostly kept out o...
by Linden16
Sun Nov 12, 2017 11:38 pm
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Young horse drama in the crossties
Replies: 30
Views: 23016

Young horse drama in the crossties

One of my young horses has “behavioural challenges” when crosstied. Grooming and tacking is no problem, but the moment I stop physically touching her, or step away from the crossties she morphs into an insolent crap weasel. Pacing forward and backwards, dancing, nonstop pawing, hopping up and down o...
by Linden16
Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:35 pm
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Class of 2013?
Replies: 196
Views: 121293

Re: Class of 2013?

Oh and I copy the image source for my photos on Facebook, and just paste that URL into the attachment coding. They turn out as large as they exist on FB.

I can help you if you want. Try it out first, you can likely succeed!
by Linden16
Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:33 pm
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Class of 2013?
Replies: 196
Views: 121293

Re: Class of 2013?

Linden, and HeddyLamar, your horses are gorgeous! How do you post such large, lovely photos? I have the darnedest time trying to post photos, and I think photos really make this BB more fun. Linden, as I recall you were a member of the old UDBB and had an injury that kept you from riding, or am I c...
by Linden16
Fri Nov 10, 2017 8:26 pm
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: Get out your winter boots - November/December Goals and Progress
Replies: 194
Views: 82927

Re: Get out your winter boots - November/December Goals and Progress

Such a fun thread. I just had my first lesson with my two yesterday. We are taking them back to square one as they are finally adjusted to the arena and the farm. It's a very spooky arena, one of the spookiest indoors I have ridden in, so I have been just letting them cruise around and get adjusted ...
by Linden16
Thu Nov 09, 2017 1:24 am
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Class of 2013?
Replies: 196
Views: 121293

Re: Class of 2013?

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by Linden16
Thu Nov 09, 2017 1:20 am
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Class of 2013?
Replies: 196
Views: 121293

Re: Class of 2013?

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by Linden16
Thu Nov 09, 2017 1:14 am
Forum: Young Horse Forum and Breeding and Registries
Topic: Class of 2013?
Replies: 196
Views: 121293

Re: Class of 2013?

I can join in! My two 2013 models are going well under saddle. Growing like WEEDS right now though. Yikes My mare yesterday (I didn’t realize how much she is growing behind- can’t wait to see her catch up in front LOL 0535E0D7-A360-46BF-B361-9D85A6460F82.jpeg E9DD9F3F-31EA-4CB2-88CA-BDDDEEC3F0CC.jpe...
by Linden16
Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:42 am
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: September and October Goals and Progress
Replies: 382
Views: 198856

Re: September and October Goals and Progress

Flight wrote:Beautiful horses Linden. Great to see you riding again.

I agree, I love people's photos! The more the merrier I say.


me too! I love seeing people's photos, they're all inspiring to me. Thanks ExVet and Flight for the kind words :)
by Linden16
Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:38 am
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: Positional challenges and projects
Replies: 33
Views: 17516

Re: Positional challenges and projects

On the monthly thread, there were a few references that made me think this might be a good topic to pull out in its own thread. As part of my effort to ride more quietly, I'm trying to pay strict attention to any time my elbows or hands move outside their appropriate "zone"! It is very ea...
by Linden16
Fri Nov 03, 2017 6:09 am
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: September and October Goals and Progress
Replies: 382
Views: 198856

Re: September and October Goals and Progress

0F684DDC-AA04-4034-BC33-0269CFB21011.jpeg 0F684DDC-AA04-4034-BC33-0269CFB21011.jpeg Great to hear everyone’s updates for the month! I don’t believe anyone has ever had a very nasty thread on this board so I can only assume it was from the old UDBB where the sneakiness was rampant. Except, the more ...
by Linden16
Mon Oct 30, 2017 5:11 am
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: September and October Goals and Progress
Replies: 382
Views: 198856

Re: September and October Goals and Progress

Goals? To ride both horses 4 days each week. That’s it. I have a lesson with my long time coach in 10 days, and I definitely need to work both horses consistently between now and then.
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by Linden16
Sun Oct 29, 2017 7:00 pm
Forum: Dressage Training
Topic: Pony trot?
Replies: 120
Views: 69191

Re: Pony trot?

I just wanted to make it clear that we were not forced to do anything, other than stay at the far end of the arena, for 30 minutes. I CHOSE to ride him like I did during that time... and I'm not sure what else I could have done to get him looser while stuck on a circle because he really seems to ne...
by Linden16
Sun Oct 29, 2017 6:28 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: My only hiccup with horses
Replies: 20
Views: 15456

Re: My only hiccup with horses

My horses definitely love to see me. I board them out and right now with work being insane, I don’t get out to the barn as often as I would like. When I get to the stable and call their names, they whinny back and Ehren always trots to me, immediately, no matter what she is doing. Even in the pastur...
by Linden16
Tue Aug 29, 2017 6:32 am
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Topic: Tell us about YOU.
Replies: 223
Views: 179707

Re: Tell us about YOU.

Good to see you Angfreda!
by Linden16
Tue Aug 15, 2017 7:14 am
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Topic: Jingles for Chancellor
Replies: 42
Views: 26613

Re: Jingles for Chancellor

Jingles Chancellor!
by Linden16
Tue Aug 15, 2017 7:11 am
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Topic: Tell us about YOU.
Replies: 223
Views: 179707

Re: Tell us about YOU.

Exvet, that was so kind. Thank you..I feel already much happier, more centred. I think we all understand here that once horses have held a part of your heart, it's very difficult to feel whole again without them <3
by Linden16
Thu Aug 10, 2017 11:52 pm
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Topic: Property investment
Replies: 13
Views: 11393

Re: Property investment

I think you need to talk to your financial adviser, your accountant, and go to some night classes at a local college to learn about investing, real estate markets, and do major research about the markets in the actual area of the world you are interested in investing in. I live in BC but I am not in...
by Linden16
Thu Aug 10, 2017 5:07 pm
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Topic: Tell us about YOU.
Replies: 223
Views: 179707

Re: Tell us about YOU.

Thanks PaulaO and Angfreda. They make my heart sing!
by Linden16
Wed Aug 09, 2017 6:24 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need Help Naming -"E" and "J" suggestions please!
Replies: 31
Views: 21096

Re: Need Help Naming -"E" and "J" suggestions please!

I have many friends at home who shop overseas very often, and many friends on Facebook I talk with a lot, all over the world. One great gal in particular buys fantastic young horses the same way we buy horses- chooses them based on temperament, soundness, vetting, style, movement, ridability etc, an...
by Linden16
Wed Aug 09, 2017 6:06 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need Help Naming -"E" and "J" suggestions please!
Replies: 31
Views: 21096

Re: Need Help Naming -"E" and "J" suggestions please!

The J mare I purchased got held up by other horses who were supposed to be on her flight pallet, and then she had to stay for a very long time in order to find two more horses to fill those spots, and I had to redo her lab work once, the next set of horses fell through as well, and I pulled the plug...
by Linden16
Tue Aug 08, 2017 5:21 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: new horses updates and intros
Replies: 10
Views: 8527

Re: new horses updates and intros

Thanks guys! It's been a rough go but I think it might be ok down the road :)
by Linden16
Mon Aug 07, 2017 7:24 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: new horses updates and intros
Replies: 10
Views: 8527

Re: new horses updates and intros

I put them all into the "tell us about you" thread. You can see them right there!! Happy to see everyone!
by Linden16
Sun Aug 06, 2017 10:17 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Tell us about YOU.
Replies: 223
Views: 179707

Re: Tell us about YOU.

Nice to catch up with everyone's stories again. I needed the refresher. ☺️ I have two young horses that are recently here in NA. One mare and one gelding. The mare has been in Canada for 6 weeks now, and the gelding hasn't actually made it to my barn yet. He's awaiting a can to bring him from Califo...
by Linden16
Sun Aug 06, 2017 2:25 am
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: new horses updates and intros
Replies: 10
Views: 8527

Re: new horses updates and intros

You have to copy and paste the links, they take you to my IG page it looks like. Sorry for the hassle. Yes I bought two ☺️ I left them in full training in Germany until June, so they landed two months ago. The mare quarantine takes another two weeks and then being able to find a ride up the coast fo...
by Linden16
Sat Aug 05, 2017 5:10 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: new horses updates and intros
Replies: 10
Views: 8527

new horses updates and intros

Hey guys. Been reading silently and following along for a while. It's been a difficult few months but things are pulling around! nothing can ever be easy, so I am starting to feel like a piece of metal - forged in fire. Literally every single thing that can go wrong, does. But, here we are. Ehrenhaf...
by Linden16
Sat Aug 05, 2017 4:47 pm
Forum: The Observation Lounge/ Cookbook Forum even Hot Topics
Topic: Need Help Naming -"E" and "J" suggestions please!
Replies: 31
Views: 21096

Re: Need Help Naming -"E" and "J" suggestions please!

Sorry for all the lost time. It's been a rough few months. I'll start a new thread to introduce Ehren! (Ehrenhafte). Coal Harbour (nee Cosmopolitan) has been in the horse hotel (clinic) since arriving at jet lets when they landed June 2. He is ok but now just waiting on transport with these wildfire...

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